March 22, 2026
Ezekiel
37.1-14; John 11.1-45
+ This past Tuesday, my good friend Brother Benet
Tvedten died.
It wasn’t a surprise.
He had been on Hospice since January.
And I had heard a few days before that he was nearing
the end of his life.
But it still struck me hard.
I had known Brother Benet since I was 14.
For those of you who follow me on social media, you
probably saw my post on his death on my Facebook page.
But for those of you who did, here it is:
I
first got to know Benet when I was 14 years old and was curious about the
Catholic Church.
My
Lutheran parents are very wary about nuns and monks and priests and so when
they came with me to visit Blue Cloud Abbey in Marvin, SD in 1984 they had no
idea what to expect (neither did I for that matter).
Benet
was the perfect monk for the occasion.
With
his dry wit and his genuine kindness and friendliness he put my parents at
ease.
However
when it was discovered that Benet was from Casselton, ND my mother’s interest
was piqued.
She
asked if he knew her first husband Roger Gould.
Benet
said Roger was a year ahead of him in high school.
My
mother then said that she attended Roger’s senior prom in 1953 and stated it
was “Blue Moon” themed.
Benet
said, “I decorated that prom.”
They
immediately became fast friends.
We
soon learned that Brother Benet was born on the same day my mother was
baptized.
Later
on, in the 1990s, Benet and the community hosted the Blue Cloud Literary
Festival.
Although
I was in my 20s, the author of maybe two books of poems at the time, I was invited to read alongside such heavy
literary hitters at Bill Holm, Mark Vinz, Thom Tammaro, Al Davis, Sharon Chmielarz, Gail Rixen, Jay Meek, Jon
Hassler and many others, most of whom became dear friend.
Benet
himself was a prolific and popular writer. In addition to a wonderful novel and
several published short stories, he wrote a series of popular commentaries on monastic
life, including A View From the Monastery and How to Be a Monastic
and Never Leave Your Day Job.
After
I was ordained I went to Blue Cloud twice a year on retreat which usually
entailed spending time talking with Benet about books and films and obscure
church stuff.
After
Blue Cloud closed in 2012, Benet moved to Assumption Abbey in Richardton, ND.
I
last visited him at the nursing home in Richardton in April 2024. Although he
recognized me he was often confused. He kept asking how my mother was even
though I reminded every time he asked that she had died in 2018.
I
knew when I said goodbye to him that day I would not see him again on this side
of the veil.
On
Tuesday night, Benet slipped through that veil. It was appropriate that this
faithful Irish monk with a Norwegian last name died on St. Patrick’s Day. May
he rest in God’s Peace
Benet was a kind of parent figure for me---someone
I knew in my formative years who was always just “there.”
And so his absence, although expected, has been
strangely difficult for me.
It seems strange to be in a world in which Brother
Benet is not.
Also on Tuesday, a classmate of mine from high
school died.
I didn’t know him well in high school, but back in 2017,
though Facebook, he reached out to me.
He knew I had had cancer in my 30s and he had been
recently diagnosed.
He was in Fargo for his mother’s funeral and he
came over to St. Stephen’s and we had a great conversation.
I assumed he had been doing well, so his death came
also as a kind of surprise to me.
I guess Lent does not help when we are walking through
a season of grief.
And grief is certainly no stranger to me.
Though, I will admit, I am consistently surprised
by how deeply is affects me in unexpected moments.
Let’s face it.
I do talk a lot about death.
How can I not?
It’s a big part of my job.
I do a lot of funerals in a year.
And burying people who don’t have anyone else to do
their funerals or anywhere else to be buried is an important ministry we do
here at St. Stephen’s.
So, yeah, I am going to talk about it.
And yeah, I am going to think about it.
Probably more than a living, breathing person even should.
But doing so doesn’t make any of this any easier.
And it doesn’t protect me or any of us from feeling
the effects of loss.
But, it is important to do.
And especially during Lent we are all called to take
our mortality into account.
Certainly, two of our readings for today may seem a
bit morbid.
Theere is no doubt that they are sobering
experiences just to hear.
They jar us and make us sit up and take notice.
The first, of course, is Ezekiel’s vision of the
dry bones.
It’s a great story in this Lenten season and it
speak loudly to the theme that I’ve used this Lent on our broken selves being
made whole.
The second reading is the raising of Lazarus.
Both are filled with images of the dead being
raised.
The story that probably speaks most deeply to us
though is the story of Lazarus.
This is, weirdly, morbidly I suppose, one of my
favorite scriptural stories.
Now, at first glance, both our reading from the
Hebrew scriptures and our Gospel reading seem a bit morbid.
These are things we don’t want to think about.
But the fact is, we are rapidly heading toward Holy
Week.
Next week at this time, on Palm Sunday, we will be
celebrating the triumphant entry of Jesus into Jerusalem.
We will be hearing the joyful cries of the crowd as
he rides forth.
Within 11 days from now, we will hear those cries
of joy turn into cries of jeering and accusation.
And, within no time, we will be hearing cries of
despair and mourning.
We, as Christians who follow Jesus, will be hearing
about betrayal, torture, murder and death as Jesus journeys away from us into
the cold dark shadow of death.
These images of death we encounter in today’s
readings simply help nudge us in the direction of the events toward which we
are racing.
During Holy Week, we too will be faced with images
we might find disturbing.
Jesus will be betrayed and abandoned by his friends
and loved ones.
He will be tortured, mocked and whipped.
He will be forced to carry the very instrument of
his death to the place of his execution.
And there he will be murdered in a very gruesome
way.
We commemorate this every Friday evening during
Lent in the Stations of the Cross we do here at St. Stephen’s.
Following that death, he will be buried in a tomb,
much the same way his friend Lazarus was.
But unlike Lazarus, what happens to Jesus will take
place within the three days at that time required for a soul to make a final
break from the body.
And this brings us back to the story of Lazarus.
We often make the mistake, when think about the
story of Lazarus, that Lazarus was resurrected.
The fact is, he was not resurrected.
In seminary, I had a professor who made very clear
to us that Lazarus was not resurrected in our Gospel reading.
It was not resurrection because Lazarus would
eventually die again.
He was simply brought back to life.
God, working through Jesus, brought Lazarus back to
life.
He was resuscitated, shall we say.
So, Lazarus truly did rise from the tomb in
Bethany, but he was not resurrected there.
He went on to live a life somewhat similar to the
life he lived before.
(Probably a life no doubt deep affected by what
happened)
And eventually, he died again.
But Resurrection is, as we no doubt know,
different.
Resurrection is rising from death into a life that
does not end.
Resurrection is rising from all the things we
encounter in our readings for today—dry bones, tombs, decomposition and death.
Resurrection is rising from grief and sorrow and
loss.
Resurrection is rising from our own broken selves
into a wholeness that will never be taken away from us.
Resurrection is new bodies, a new understanding of
everything, a new and unending life.
Resurrection, when it happens, cannot be undone.
It cannot be taken away.
Resurrection destroys the hold of death.
Resurrection destroys death.
And the first person to be resurrected was not
Lazarus.
The first person to be resurrected was, of course,
Jesus.
His resurrection is important not simply because he
was the first.
His resurrection is important because it, in a real
sense, destroys death once and for all.
Yes, we will all die.
Yes, we will go down into the grave, into that
place of bones and ashes.
But, the resurrection of Jesus casts new light on
the deaths we must die.
The resurrection of Jesus shows us that God will raise
us from the destruction of our bodies—and our lives—into a life like the life
of the resurrected Jesus.
We will be raised into a life that never ends, a
life in which “sorrow and pain are no more, neither sighing, but life eternal,”
as we celebrate in the Burial Office of the Book of Common Prayer.
Because Jesus died and then trampled death, God has
taken away eternal death.
Our bodies may die, but we will rise again with
Jesus into a new and awesome life.
So, as we move through these last days of Lent
toward that long, painful week of Holy Week, we go forward knowing full well
what await us on the other side of the Cross of Good Friday.
We go forward knowing that the glorious dawn of
Easter awaits us.
And with it, the glory of resurrection and life
everlasting awaits us as well.
So, let go forward.
Let us move toward Holy Week, rejoicing with the
crowd.
And as the days darken and we grow weary with
Jesus, let us keep focused on the Easter light that is just about to dawn on
all of us.