March 29, 2026
Matthew 26.14-27.66
+ All through
Lent I have said that following Jesus is hard.
Jamie Parsley+
Matthew 26.14-27.66
+ All through
Lent I have said that following Jesus is hard.
Ezekiel
37.1-14; John 11.1-45
+ This past Tuesday, my good friend Brother Benet
Tvedten died.
It wasn’t a surprise.
He had been on Hospice since January.
And I had heard a few days before that he was nearing
the end of his life.
But it still struck me hard.
I had known Brother Benet since I was 14.
For those of you who follow me on social media, you
probably saw my post on his death on my Facebook page.
But for those of you who did, here it is:
I
first got to know Benet when I was 14 years old and was curious about the
Catholic Church.
My
Lutheran parents are very wary about nuns and monks and priests and so when
they came with me to visit Blue Cloud Abbey in Marvin, SD in 1984 they had no
idea what to expect (neither did I for that matter).
Benet
was the perfect monk for the occasion.
With
his dry wit and his genuine kindness and friendliness he put my parents at
ease.
However
when it was discovered that Benet was from Casselton, ND my mother’s interest
was piqued.
She
asked if he knew her first husband Roger Gould.
Benet
said Roger was a year ahead of him in high school.
My
mother then said that she attended Roger’s senior prom in 1953 and stated it
was “Blue Moon” themed.
Benet
said, “I decorated that prom.”
They
immediately became fast friends.
We
soon learned that Brother Benet was born on the same day my mother was
baptized.
Later
on, in the 1990s, Benet and the community hosted the Blue Cloud Literary
Festival.
Although
I was in my 20s, the author of maybe two books of poems at the time, I was invited to read alongside such heavy
literary hitters at Bill Holm, Mark Vinz, Thom Tammaro, Al Davis, Sharon Chmielarz, Gail Rixen, Jay Meek, Jon
Hassler and many others, most of whom became dear friend.
Benet
himself was a prolific and popular writer. In addition to a wonderful novel and
several published short stories, he wrote a series of popular commentaries on monastic
life, including A View From the Monastery and How to Be a Monastic
and Never Leave Your Day Job.
After
I was ordained I went to Blue Cloud twice a year on retreat which usually
entailed spending time talking with Benet about books and films and obscure
church stuff.
After
Blue Cloud closed in 2012, Benet moved to Assumption Abbey in Richardton, ND.
I
last visited him at the nursing home in Richardton in April 2024. Although he
recognized me he was often confused. He kept asking how my mother was even
though I reminded every time he asked that she had died in 2018.
I
knew when I said goodbye to him that day I would not see him again on this side
of the veil.
On
Tuesday night, Benet slipped through that veil. It was appropriate that this
faithful Irish monk with a Norwegian last name died on St. Patrick’s Day. May
he rest in God’s Peace
Benet was a kind of parent figure for me---someone
I knew in my formative years who was always just “there.”
And so his absence, although expected, has been
strangely difficult for me.
It seems strange to be in a world in which Brother
Benet is not.
Also on Tuesday, a classmate of mine from high
school died.
I didn’t know him well in high school, but back in 2017,
though Facebook, he reached out to me.
He knew I had had cancer in my 30s and he had been
recently diagnosed.
He was in Fargo for his mother’s funeral and he
came over to St. Stephen’s and we had a great conversation.
I assumed he had been doing well, so his death came
also as a kind of surprise to me.
I guess Lent does not help when we are walking through
a season of grief.
And grief is certainly no stranger to me.
Though, I will admit, I am consistently surprised
by how deeply is affects me in unexpected moments.
Let’s face it.
I do talk a lot about death.
How can I not?
It’s a big part of my job.
I do a lot of funerals in a year.
And burying people who don’t have anyone else to do
their funerals or anywhere else to be buried is an important ministry we do
here at St. Stephen’s.
So, yeah, I am going to talk about it.
And yeah, I am going to think about it.
Probably more than a living, breathing person even should.
But doing so doesn’t make any of this any easier.
And it doesn’t protect me or any of us from feeling
the effects of loss.
But, it is important to do.
And especially during Lent we are all called to take
our mortality into account.
Certainly, two of our readings for today may seem a
bit morbid.
Theere is no doubt that they are sobering
experiences just to hear.
They jar us and make us sit up and take notice.
The first, of course, is Ezekiel’s vision of the
dry bones.
It’s a great story in this Lenten season and it
speak loudly to the theme that I’ve used this Lent on our broken selves being
made whole.
The second reading is the raising of Lazarus.
Both are filled with images of the dead being
raised.
The story that probably speaks most deeply to us
though is the story of Lazarus.
This is, weirdly, morbidly I suppose, one of my
favorite scriptural stories.
Now, at first glance, both our reading from the
Hebrew scriptures and our Gospel reading seem a bit morbid.
These are things we don’t want to think about.
But the fact is, we are rapidly heading toward Holy
Week.
Next week at this time, on Palm Sunday, we will be
celebrating the triumphant entry of Jesus into Jerusalem.
We will be hearing the joyful cries of the crowd as
he rides forth.
Within 11 days from now, we will hear those cries
of joy turn into cries of jeering and accusation.
And, within no time, we will be hearing cries of
despair and mourning.
We, as Christians who follow Jesus, will be hearing
about betrayal, torture, murder and death as Jesus journeys away from us into
the cold dark shadow of death.
These images of death we encounter in today’s
readings simply help nudge us in the direction of the events toward which we
are racing.
During Holy Week, we too will be faced with images
we might find disturbing.
Jesus will be betrayed and abandoned by his friends
and loved ones.
He will be tortured, mocked and whipped.
He will be forced to carry the very instrument of
his death to the place of his execution.
And there he will be murdered in a very gruesome
way.
We commemorate this every Friday evening during
Lent in the Stations of the Cross we do here at St. Stephen’s.
Following that death, he will be buried in a tomb,
much the same way his friend Lazarus was.
But unlike Lazarus, what happens to Jesus will take
place within the three days at that time required for a soul to make a final
break from the body.
And this brings us back to the story of Lazarus.
We often make the mistake, when think about the
story of Lazarus, that Lazarus was resurrected.
The fact is, he was not resurrected.
In seminary, I had a professor who made very clear
to us that Lazarus was not resurrected in our Gospel reading.
It was not resurrection because Lazarus would
eventually die again.
He was simply brought back to life.
God, working through Jesus, brought Lazarus back to
life.
He was resuscitated, shall we say.
So, Lazarus truly did rise from the tomb in
Bethany, but he was not resurrected there.
He went on to live a life somewhat similar to the
life he lived before.
(Probably a life no doubt deep affected by what
happened)
And eventually, he died again.
But Resurrection is, as we no doubt know,
different.
Resurrection is rising from death into a life that
does not end.
Resurrection is rising from all the things we
encounter in our readings for today—dry bones, tombs, decomposition and death.
Resurrection is rising from grief and sorrow and
loss.
Resurrection is rising from our own broken selves
into a wholeness that will never be taken away from us.
Resurrection is new bodies, a new understanding of
everything, a new and unending life.
Resurrection, when it happens, cannot be undone.
It cannot be taken away.
Resurrection destroys the hold of death.
Resurrection destroys death.
And the first person to be resurrected was not
Lazarus.
The first person to be resurrected was, of course,
Jesus.
His resurrection is important not simply because he
was the first.
His resurrection is important because it, in a real
sense, destroys death once and for all.
Yes, we will all die.
Yes, we will go down into the grave, into that
place of bones and ashes.
But, the resurrection of Jesus casts new light on
the deaths we must die.
The resurrection of Jesus shows us that God will raise
us from the destruction of our bodies—and our lives—into a life like the life
of the resurrected Jesus.
We will be raised into a life that never ends, a
life in which “sorrow and pain are no more, neither sighing, but life eternal,”
as we celebrate in the Burial Office of the Book of Common Prayer.
Because Jesus died and then trampled death, God has
taken away eternal death.
Our bodies may die, but we will rise again with
Jesus into a new and awesome life.
So, as we move through these last days of Lent
toward that long, painful week of Holy Week, we go forward knowing full well
what await us on the other side of the Cross of Good Friday.
We go forward knowing that the glorious dawn of
Easter awaits us.
And with it, the glory of resurrection and life
everlasting awaits us as well.
So, let go forward.
Let us move toward Holy Week, rejoicing with the
crowd.
And as the days darken and we grow weary with
Jesus, let us keep focused on the Easter light that is just about to dawn on
all of us.
Sheyenne Crossing
West Fargo, ND
Psalm 23
+ Isn’t it sometimes strange the things you take for granted.
For me, one of the things I have long taken for granted is the 23rd
Psalm.
If I had a dollar for every time I have heard the 23rd
Psalm in my life, I’d be on rich priest, let me tell you.
But, let’s just think about it for one moment.
Think about all the times you have heard, throughout your life,
the 23rd Psalm.
Think of all those funerals.
Think of all those times when you have heard it and you could
recite it by heart.
Or think of all those films you may have watched in which the 23rd
Psalm was recited.
I remember well, in the original film of In Cold Blood, how the 23rd Psalm is read in the
powerful closing scene as the murderers are hanged.
Or in the film Titanic,
how the psalm was recited as the ship went down.
Or, in the great Clint Eastwood Western, Pale Rider (a film full of Christian symbolism), how there was a
great dialog version of the 23rd Psalm in which a girl whose dog was
killed by marauders recites the psalm, but then responds to the verses with
comments like “But I DO want” and “But I AM afraid.”
In fact, that dialog version from Pale Rider is what the Psalms are all about.
I pray the Psalms every day—at least twice a day—when I pray
Morning and Evening Prayer from the Daily Office from the Book of Common
Prayer.
And there are times ways in which those psalms, or other
scriptures speak to where I am in my life just at that moment.
When you pray the psalms in such a way, day in and day out, trust
me, you often find yourself in a dialog form of prayer with them.
We find God speaking to us, sometimes in mysterious ways, in these
psalms.
For me, that’s the correct way to pray the psalms.
If the psalms aren’t used as a kind of dialog—if they don’t become
our prayers—then they’re being used
incorrectly.
But, even for me, for someone who prays the Psalms on a daily
basis and has for over twenty-five years, I also have taken the 23rd
Psalm for granted.
Oftentimes when something becomes so ingrained into our culture,
we don’t even give it a second thought.
We find ourselves missing its nuances, it beauties, its
depths.
Because it is so popular, because we have heard it so much in our
lives, we really do take the 23rd Psalm for granted.
We don’t really think about it and what it means.
So, this morning, let’s take a close look at this psalm to which
we have paid so little attention.
We’re going to do something this morning that we haven’t done in a
while, but it’s fun to do on occasion.
We are going to take a line-by-line look at Psalm 23.
So, let us take a good, in-depth look at this psalm.
And there’s no better to begin, than the beginning.
The Lord is my shepherd, I shall not
want.
There’s an interesting choice of words here.
Want.
I shall not be in want.
Why?
Essentially, this line is perfect, really.
Why would I need to want anything, with God as
my shepherd, as the One who leads me and guides me and provides for me.
If we are being shepherded, if we are being
watched over and cared for, there is no need to want to for anything.
We are provided for by our God.
We are taken care of.
And want is just not something we have.
[The
Lord] makes me lie down in green
pastures;
[you] lead me beside still waters;
[you] restore my soul.
So, here we have sort of this idyllic image.
Green pastures.
Still waters.
The sense here is calmness.
For all those funerals at which this psalm has
been recited, this image no doubt calls to mind images of heaven.
But, for us, right now, this image is
important too.
God’s presence in our lives essentially stills
whatever anxieties we might have.
God, who is our shepherd, will only find the
choicest places for us, the best places.
Just as we don’t want, just as we are taken
care of and cared for, so we are led to
a place of safety and beauty, because God loves us just that much.
And we will be well.
[The Lord] leads me in right paths
for [your] name’s sake.
Again, God the Shepherd leads.
And where does God lead?
God leads us on the right path, through the
right way.
But then we come across this strange wording,
For God’s name’s sake.
Again, notice at this point how often we have
taken this psalm for granted.
How many times have we recited or prayed these
words?
But without asking, what does that mean?
“For his name’s sake?”
Well, for us, it shows that God’s reputation
is one of goodness and mercy and rightness.
For God’s Name’s sake, in this sense, means
that it is God’s will, God’s purpose, God is known for doing good things for
us, for leading us on those right paths.
Even though I walk through the valley of
the shadow of death,
I fear no evil;
for you are with me;
Those are iconic lines if there ever were any.
Now, this is not bragging mind, you, but I,
for one, know what the valley of the shadow of death is.
I have been there.
I have ventured through it more than once.
I went through it when I was diagnosed with
cancer.
I went through it during my various seasons of
grief.
But the valley of the shadow of death is
different of each us.
I remember well my mother saying that giving
birth, for her, was like walking through the shadow of death.
The shadow of death for us is the darkest,
most horrendous place we can think of in life.
And for us, we know that even there we are not
alone.
God is with us even in that darkness, even
that close to death.
And not only with us, vaguely hovering over
us.
No.
God is there to support us, to hold us, to
guide us forward
Hence,
your rod and your staff—
they comfort me.
God’s strength holds us up and sustains us
even then.
But then, we come to this strange verse,
You
prepare a table before me
in the presence of my enemies;
Didn’t I just talk about how God only leads us
into places of beauty and light?
And now, here we have God preparing a table
for us in the presence of our enemies.
At first glance, this seems like something
horrible, like a cruel joke.
Why would God put us at a table with our
enemies?
But, if you notice, there is a bit of defiance
in this verse.
Go ahead and sit with your enemies, God seems
to say to us.
You can’t be protected from all harm.
There are dangers out there.
There are bad things in this world.
There is a valley of the shadow of death!
There are people who don’t like us.
Yes, we may very well have real enemies.
But don’t fear, God says in this psalm.
I am with you.
And because I am, you can even sit down at the
table with your enemies and you will be fine.
Even there, in the presence of our enemies,
Our heads are anointed with oil—we are blessed and consecrated by our God,
And there, at the table in the presence of our
enemies, our cup overflows with
God’s goodness.
Even there, we will be all right.
Because we are following the right path.
And on that path, there is goodness and mercy following us.
Not just today.
Not just tomorrow.
But all
the days of our lives.
This how God rewards those of us who are
faithful in our following of God.
And at the very, we know what awaits us.
We know what the ultimate goal is in following
God our Shepherd.
We know where God will lead us.
God will lead us to that place in which we dwell in the house of God, our whole life
long.
See, this psalm really is amazing!
No wonder this psalm has been so important to
so many people over so many years.
This psalm is our psalm.
It is a wonderful microcosm of our faith
journey.
And it is a beautiful reminder to us of God’s
continued goodness in our lives.
So, when we are at a funeral and we hear the
23rd Psalm or we hear it being recited in a film, or maybe when we
recite it on our own when we need a bit of comfort or reassurance, let us truly
hear it for what it is.
Let it speak to us anew.
And most importantly, let it be a reminder to
us of God’s goodness and mercy, of God’s care for each of us.
God is our shepherd.
God leads us and guards us and guides us.
We have nothing to fear.
And, one day, we will dwell in the house of
our God forever.
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